Each time a relationship comes to an end it can be an incredibly unpleasant experience. And this doesn’ t even need to be a relationship was satisfying or healthy; as it can be painful regardless of how ‘ good’ or ‘ bad’ it was.
So this means that someone can have the desire to get back with their ex and for the relationship to continue despite the fact that this might not be the best option. Logically 1 might think that if the relationship didn’ t work before, then the smartest choice would be to move on.
When the relationship did work before and there didn’ t seem to be a reason for it to end, then it is only natural that one would do all they can to get back with their ex. What comes down to is the fact that an emotional attachment has been made and so, logic or reason can have very little impact.
When someone is in a relationship that is going well and then out of nowhere it simply ends and this could be an abrupt end, it is could make one wonder so what happened. They could end up feeling mystified and have no idea why it has come to a finish.
And even if they are conscious of what wasn’ t working, their own mind could filter these reasons out. One then only chose to focus on what was right and to disregard what was wrong. If they can consider more positives than negatives, then this is going to cause one to feel even more convinced that it shouldn’ to have ended.
However , if you are in a relationship that is not going well and before long it comes to an end, it is not likely to make one wonder what happened. Evidence is going to be there and there is then no confusion as to why is is at a an end.
But just because the evidence is there, it doesn’ to mean that one is going to accept this. They might start to idealise the relationship and begin to see what they want to see; instead of that which was taking place.
And just because the relationship was not working, it won’ t necessarily stop someone form trying to get back again with their ex. If it was working, then it is to be expected that one would do all they can to restore the connection.
This is not something you have to do all by themselves either; because there is help available. One can end up being assisted through reading books, content and they can have coaching. There are even mean casters out there that offer to reunite people.
A Mutual Choice
When a couple are in a relationship, ideally it should be through choice and not through concern or obligation. So if one was to work on themselves in order to get back again with their ex, then it is clear they are not violating another person. And yet, when one was to use control, manipulation and even a ‘ spell’, this shows that they are trying to violate another person.
And if this is what is happening, one would need to ask themselves exactly why they want to get back with their ex. If they truly loved or liked your partner, they would want what’ s perfect for them. If this means that they want someone to be a part of their life then therefore be it, but if not, this is something that one will have to accept.
Whenever one has formed an emotional attachment to someone, it is not going to end up being easy to let go. If this was a romantic relationship that worked, then one is not necessarily going to want to let go. The fact they are attached to them, could be interpreted as being a sign that they are meant to be together.
And the same interpretation could be formed even if the relationship was not working; simply because they feel attached to the other person. Letting go can be painful even when the connection wasn’ t work. As a result of having this attachment, it is going to be painful not to have this person around anymore.
So for some people this attachment is going to reflect the truth and that is that they are meant to be with each other. But for others, it is just going to reflect what is going on for them and therefore have nothing to do with the other person or the relationship.
Being with the other individual is then a way for them to manage their emotions and for them to feel better. What the other person wants is usually then not taken into account and one is being motivated by their own need to feel better. The other person’ s needs and wants are then completely ignored.
And the emotions that one is trying to regulate through being with the other individual could relate to the present day relationship and they can also relate to ones childhood many years. The present relationship has then induced trapped emotions from their past and if one is not aware of this, they can end up believing that the other person is usually causing them.
The other person is then believed to be in control of how they feel and based on this, they are the just ones who can make them feel better. What this would show is that one has turn out to be emotionally dependent on the other person.
So there is the chance that one is meant to be with their ex and also the chance that they are not really. And it will be important for one to reflect on the fact that their ex is an individual who provides their own needs and wants.
If one is suffering emotionally, they may need to seek the assistance of the therapist or a healer. When you have an emotional build up from their past, it is going to make it difficult for them to find and to think clearly.